NOTE: This post was originally published on Instagram. I am reposting and backdating it here as part of a historical series in order to preserve these meaningful memories and early motherhood thoughts and experiences in a way that is not tied to any social media platform. This is something I’ve been wanting to do for some time. As we formally shelter in place in NYC, this project brings me happiness and a welcome break from the news. 🖤
Walking away from anything that does not serve us like…
I recently unfollowed a mom account that slammed a mother of a 6-month old for her “skinny jeans, perfectly tucked in crisp white button down and bright red lipstick” and for saying “isn’t this the most amazing thing ever?” about motherhood at a mommy and me class. The post assumes she is a liar, “full of shit.” It really made me think about all the mom messages I’m receiving, and what is beneficial and what is unhelpful.
It feels like we are at a point where loving motherhood is radical. Wanting to be with your child and enjoying being a mom is challenged as inauthentic.
But every ‘real’ mom does not have the same ‘real’ experience.
We have different backgrounds, childhoods, personalities, abilities, methods, journeys to motherhood, birth stories, postpartum struggles, different partners, families, support systems, different kids, different days.
With all we have to do, why spend time invalidating one another.
You don’t have to drag down those who are up, to lift up those who are down.
And it’s not a sisterhood when you slam your sister for being alright. Because that’s the very moment when she can be there for you. And there may come a time when she will need you to be there for her.
That support will never happen if we’re too busy judging and projecting and drawing lines. If you truly support women and mothers, it cannot be just those that fit your specific mold.
Originally posted on June 2, 2019
NOTE: This post is not sponsored. All thoughts are unbiased and my own. All photos and content are property of Lauren Cosenza Beauty LLC.
Lauren Cosenza consults for top brands, websites, and magazines and serves as a trusted beauty/fashion/mom expert, a brand ambassador, an on-camera personality and spokesperson, a creative director, a published editorial contributor and writer, the creator and owner of DIVAlicious®, the creator and owner of BEAUTYfull®, a product junkie and an insatiable beauty and style seeker — with a former life at Cosmopolitan, Shape and Bustle/BDG brands. She currently runs Señor Lechuga Hot Sauce with her husband and baby boy as the Co-Founder + Head of Brand.